On to Njoki Chege’s article/blog post (it appeared both in her blog and in the newspaper) I find myself agreeing with all the responses that have been churned out by mothers, bloggers and feminists. I don’t regret it though was fun while it lasted although now I seek more out of my life and relationships. I give no excuses for my actions I was in short a dick living a booze fueled, drug induced fantasy. About my own misconceptions about virility and what the male is supposed to do about my own greed and insecurities, feeling that without the affirmation of the women I was constantly hopping in and out of bed with I was not attractive enough, not cool enough not MAN enough. Now that I’m older and wiser (even though slightly) I’m willing to admit that cheating on her was not about her flaws but more about mine. Because a lot of the time that’s what the girlfriend was, a speed bump on that road of seemingly endless conquest. The only thing slowing us down was the potential of getting an STD, the dreaded AIDS virus or the girlfriend. Get laid! Get laid! Get laid! Morals were those things they held over your head in church and were absolutely BORING.
#National lampoon van wilder church movie
The first years after high school (being the first years of university) were more like a script out of a National Lampoon movie or American pie (Van Wilder in The Westlands Adventure or something like that) than the inspiring RomCom that most people think they were/will be for their kids. Sex at that age was more about getting more and more and rarely about intimacy.
#National lampoon van wilder church professional
I mention these relationships and marriage because I believe that it’s important I give ample notice that in no way am I a professional on the matter of marital infidelity (but neither are most of the people talking about that article). Over the course of those relationships I cheated (crowd of ex girlfriends claps slowly in the background as they sharpen their butcher’s knives) and I’ve been cheated on. One term/sem would yield one- maybe two- different girlfriends because at that age relationships were more about who you had a crush on than who you’d want to spend your life with. That may sound like many but I’m counting from when I was in primary school up to two years ago.
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In my short life, I’ve, of course, never been married but I’ve been in dozens of relationships.